Wednesday, September 21, 2011

I Was a Stranger...

I had a couple of very odd experiences, back to back. I have been working far from home for several weeks, and so church is a little different we you're on the road. Experience #1, I dropped in at a church that kinda resembled my own church back home. I didn't expect them to bake me a cake, I just thought I would look at the place, because you can usually tell what's important by looking at the building. It's usually a long-shot to meet a minister on a weekday of course. So, I walked up to the big glass doors to the big lobby. Inside the glass were two handsome, wholesome men with laptops, intently conversing. They were three feet from me, but I was locked out. So I stood, and looked expectantly. They knew I was there. But they didn't dare look up at me. So, I stood. I refused to knock on the door because they were obviously and irrefutably aware of my presence. The fact that they would not so much as glance proved they knew the door was locked. Bible study, or some accountability thing. Maybe planning a project. So I stood there waiting for Jesus to return. The same evening I visited a Home Group meeting with a friend. Handsome, wholesome people, good brownies. Strange experience #2. In the two hours I was there, so help me, not one word was addressed to me unless it was an response to something I asked or said. Eerily, nobody looked at me either. The leader was a barrage of words, wonderful, smart, biblical words. God is a God of covenant. He loves. He reaches to us, as epitomized by Jesus. I sat at his left elbow and he never once turned his head toward me. But he addressed the last few minutes of the biblical torrent toward "anyone who may be present who feels like they just don't know God in the way these people do." Don't get me wrong, these were cool people, and I knew they would be my friends if we attended the same church for long. But as it was, this whole thing was just flat weird. As you may know, I am a veteran leader of such groups, and not exactly shy. And as you would guess, I kept ratcheting up the "gregarious level" to contrast with the odd indifference. Dude, I was a guest in someone's home. But if it had been an elevator the environment would not have been more impersonal.

There is an obvious common thread in these two encounters, that is that I was a stranger in a strange place. But I think there is a common thing on the part of those I encountered. What is it, and what can we learn from it?

4 comments:

Scott said...

This makes me sad.

It does make me wonder how prevalent this is. Are a lot of places really like this? Sometimes I feel like I "know" American churchianity, but then sometimes I feel like I'm in a little glass bubble, and I really have no concept of how things are outside my own four walls.

And as pessimistic as I often am, I just don't see most of the people I know acting like this at all.

Joe B said...

Me neither. Thank goodness!

Matt said...

It's hard to read, wondering if I have done that. On either side, too - being the guest or the host. I don't doubt I'm guilty of both being a guest not reaching out, nor a host reaching out.

I don't know if you were in a technologically advanced culture, but I often wonder if our culture is making it more and more difficult to reach out, and if you add the gospel to your reason for reaching out, it becomes just as challenging or maybe even more tempting not to reach out, due to the reality of suffering when we reach out wiht the gospel.

Actually, as I think as I write, (dangrous - unedited?) getting outside of ourselves or everytime we do that, there is a risk of suffering or rejection no matter what. The sheer nature of the gospel, of following Jesus, is supposed to be about going outward - risking yourself - for the reason that Jesus went out, or rather came to us...

just babble... I know the fear of the host and the guest. I'm not the most extroverted guy...

Gray Skelton said...

Joe B. We must remember the "program preempts the people" is the new unspoken mantra of Churchianity, whether it meets behind glass doors or in someone's home. I firmly believe that Jesus is upset with His name being affixed to so many frauds. He is still the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. Be true if only with a few. Gray